A house full of happy children, brightly colored decorations and balloons all over, maybe even a funny clown making balloon animals and squirting water from a fake flower. These are all signs of a great birthday party. However, to some kids, and even some parents, all of these things can be over-stimulating and lead to tears and a meltdown. Follow these simple tips to help keep everyone happy and smiling so your party can make great memories for everyone involved.

1. Limit the Guests

An overcrowded house or party place can make anyone feel a little anxious or over-stimulated. Sit down with the birthday child and make  a list of guests, focus on very close friends and family.

2. Have a schedule

You don’t need to plan our every minute, but judge how long the entertainment and games should last, when you’ll be serving the cake, when you’ll be opening presents etc. This lets the birthday child know what and when to expect all the fun on the party day!

3. Skip Traditions

Does your child hate having everyone’s eyes on them? Skip the public opening of the presents (but make sure you back it up with thank you cards!)  You can even skip singing “Happy Birthday” to very sensitive children.

4. Lose the party

Sometimes your children’s favorite memories will be just when you focused on them. Instead of a birthday party, your child might prefer a day out at a museum or going to the movies with just you!